Breastfeeding.. Tips for mothers
Breastfeeding specialist Fatima Salman says that breastfeeding is sustainable and gives immunity, as it is a medicine.
Beirut- “I was crying while trying to breastfeed my eldest son, and the blood that flowed from the nipples because of the cracks filled his face, as well as my tears. I was unable to breastfeed my three children, and I did not find a solution,” Rana Jaradi tells Al Jazeera Net her struggle to breastfeed her children, as the blood-thinning medication that Her need always prevents her from achieving her dream.
Some mothers dream of such a moment, and others find that there is no need to expose their breasts to this pain. With the presence of infant formula from various brands, which contains all the vitamins that the child needs, some mothers are reassured about the health of their children on the one hand, and some of them do not strive much in trying to breastfeed.
I wish I quit work and breastfed her
After giving birth to her first child, Maya Odeh was forced to return to work within 20 days, which made her wean her early at the age of 3 months. She says that she regrets that she did not leave work at the time, and that she struggled to withdraw milk, and everyone around her told her that her milk did not satisfy the child.
Nada, on her part, says that she was young (under the age of twenty) when she gave birth to her two children 22 years ago, and that her neighbor convinced her not to breastfeed them so that her breasts would not sag and her husband would divorce her! She says she lost a beautiful feeling because of her fear of divorce, which happened when the two children were 5 and 7 years old.
Nada married again and was determined to breastfeed her daughter until she was two and a half years old. She tells Al Jazeera Net, “There is no feeling in the world that compares to her looking at me during breastfeeding, and nothing compares to this communication between the mother and the child at these moments, and I am ashamed to tell my sons that I did not breastfeed them.”
passion for breastfeeding
Fatima Salman, a licensed nurse in intensive care for children and a lactation specialist, tells Al Jazeera Net that her journey in discovering breastfeeding began when she gave birth to her child 3 years ago, and he was exposed to a health symptom, so the blame journey began: “Why did you breastfeed him?”, “Your milk is not satiated,” “his hunger.” She says, “until I doubted myself, my body and my ability to be a mother!”.
This later made her specialize in the topic of breastfeeding, which became a passion for her, and she says that she found that the medical team lacks information about breastfeeding, and “we lack the presence of a lactation specialist or an international consultant in hospitals 24/24 hours to follow up on mothers. The community also lacks awareness of this issue.” .
Fatima and her friend Amani Hashem created a Facebook page, “Go lactateIn Arabic, it provides educational materials, including videos and drawings, to reach the community “which did not accept us in the beginning as considering the mother’s breast as a sexual object and a defect, and that our specialization is meaningless.”
Every mother has a plan
Fatima encourages mothers to breastfeed without judgment and blame, and points out that some mothers return to work after 30, 40 or 70 days of birth, due to the unfair law against mothers, and considers that the period is never sufficient in terms of education and health, and in terms of breastfeeding natural.
So she teaches the mother in proportion to her lifestyle and work: how to maintain her milk production, how and when to withdraw milk, and how to keep it, especially in the absence of permanent electricity.
And he cautioned that “every mother has a plan that I adopt, and I give her solutions in case there are obstacles, such as the lack of a place to withdraw milk at work, without being abused by her manager or colleagues,” stressing that the milk must be withdrawn every 3 or 4 hours, and kept in a bag. Refrigerated all the time.
It considers that any external factor that distracts breastfeeding and keeps the child away from his mother’s breast, such as the introduction of formula milk, may cause a series of problems, the most important of which are mastitis, the child’s rejection of the breast, “nipple confusion”, a decrease in the mother’s production, and early weaning.
Fatima says that the mother at birth may be separated for 4 hours from the child and they give him formula milk, and this is the first line of problems in the breastfeeding process. From one bottle, the mother’s journey ends with many problems that we have to deal with, and the mother is the victim, according to Fatima.
Among the common mistakes – as Fatima mentions – is that he asks the mother not to drink because her milk is serum, or not to eat some foods because her milk causes colic for the child, or a defect in breastfeeding him in front of people, or that “eye injury” causes the milk to disappear, or the necessity not to breastfeed him If she is sad, or her milk is not enough… She says that they are obstacles in the journey of breastfeeding and a burden on the mother, and drags her towards formula milk, sometimes at the request of the doctor.
Fatima adds, “Our society considers formula to be a hypnotic for the child, and thus the mother obtains her freedom and satiates him, knowing that this is an unscientific and wrong concept, but it is embedded in our minds.”
And she considers that breastfeeding is not retribution, although it is stressful in the first months, “it is the fourth trimester of pregnancy, and breastfeeding is sufficient alone, and we do not need to introduce any artificial milk, and in rare cases we find a scientific reason to give additional milk to the child, and here, this milk must be from A second mother, and if it is not available, formula milk may be our last option.”
Fatima considers that mothers and fathers have the responsibility to feed the child, and the best food is breast milk. “I teach the father as I teach the mother, because his role is very important, for example his role in touching his skin with the skin of his child, supporting his partner, observing the child’s signs of satiety and others.”
She says that some fathers were the reason for the success of the breastfeeding process, as the father is the first supporter of the mother in her surroundings. I also felt that some husbands were not supportive, and they frustrated their wives, which caused their psychological conditions to deteriorate. However, there were those who were strong and continued their breastfeeding journey.
She concludes that at the present time, some people decide to rely on breastfeeding for financial reasons or the lack of milk, but they are surprised that their decision is in the interest of their child and they are happy, “Breastfeeding is sustainable, and it gives immunity, it is medicine. It provides food that we will only find in the breasts of mothers, no matter how companies try Formula milk boosting its advertising.”
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